10 Ways To Have A Healthier Relationship With Social Media.

In this day and age, it is quite rare to find someone who isn’t connected to social media in one way or another. It’s to the point where it’s almost seen as weird or taboo to not be on any type of platform. It’s giving Joe, from the TV series “YOU” type of vibes.

Social media has become so ingrained in our daily life that many of us find ourselves spending an insane amount of time mindlessly scrolling our feeds, consuming an abnormal amount of information on various people, places, and things, and constantly seeing all types of mood-altering content.  

Whether you know it or not, social media can have a huge effect on your mental health. I’m sure many of us have felt the effects and decided that we were gonna delete all of our social media and go ghost, only to create a second account and find yourself relapsing. What we need to understand is that whether we have a positive or negative experience with social media, all depends on how we choose to interact and engage with the platform. Finding a balance and using social media intentionally instead of mindlessly, and developing healthy habits, is essential for making sure it has a positive impact on our life and mental health. 

Now, I find myself occasionally getting burnt out from social media. But, like Tyrese once said, “Every time I try to leave, something keeps pullin’ me back me back, telling me I need you in my life!” 😭 The lowkey addiction is real, OKAY?! Every time I leave to take a break and come back, I feel like I’ve missed a YEARS worth of updates! Especially with all of the craziness that’s going on in the year 2020, it seems like something new is happening every-single-day and I want to be in the know!

Sometimes I find myself reminiscing of the days when social media wasn’t even all that popular. Barely anyone was interested in having a twitter account because they didn’t understand the point of it, people created Instagram profiles just to stay connected with their favorite celebrities and barely ever posted anything besides text posts and a few selfies, Facebook was for “old people,” and myspace was the most popping platform and didn’t even have an app to download! You could only access it from your computer! Isn’t it crazy how social media wasn’t as conveniently accessible as it is today? Not consuming so much social media back in the day had my mind in a healthier state, I was forced to live in the real world and connect with my loved ones face to face. It was soo much more authentic.

The negatives and positive aspects of social media.

For many of us, social media has been all in all a positive experience. For me personally, I’ve met some AMAZING individuals on twitter that I probably would’ve never crossed paths with in the real world. I’ve connected with my once upon a time favorite rapper, “Chance the Rapper” through twitter (and I’ll never forget when he first DM’d me, or when he wished me a belated happy birthday 😭), and I’ve even networked with a few mutuals to find jobs and hop on consult calls to discuss business ideas and things of that nature.

 Social media can be an amazing way to connect with others, (DUH that’s why it’s called “SOCIAL” media 😂) but it has its negative effects as well. The users of social media oftentimes ONLY post the highlights of their life, they rarely ever post the lows. This can cause someone to unintentionally compare their life to others and start to believe that their life is not as fun or popping as the next person. Let’s not even get into the fact that we sometimes feel the need to constantly post to remain relevant. I know all of my business & brand owners felt that one!

These are just a few reasons why I decided to make my relationship with social media healthier. After all, there’s still a life to be lived once you log off, and we want to make sure we’re just as happy in real life, as some may try to perceive online.

Below are a few changes I have made, to make my interaction with social media more pleasant. I hope this helps someone, and if it did please feel free to connect and share your experience with me on twitter @meeyahh9. I LOVE hearing from you guys! (:

1. Be Selective with who you follow.

 Who you follow directly affects your experience on social media. I’ve recently cleaned up my following list and only decided to follow accounts that bring value to my timeline. At this point in my life, I’m interested in business, mental wellness, productivity, (a little bit of celebrity gossip, tehe), and anything that has to do with my unique hobbies and interests. I’ve had my twitter account for close to a decade now, so it was very important for me to clean up my following list, and only keep the accounts I resonated with. 

Go through your following list and unfollow any accounts that no longer align with your vision and mental space. Listen- It is absolutely okay to unfollow or mute people who you know personally. If you’re scared to unfollow someone that follows you back, you can always mute their account.

According to twitter, muting an account is a feature that “allows you to remove an account’s Tweets from your timeline without unfollowing or blocking that account. Muted accounts will not know that you’ve muted them and you can unmute them at any time.”

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2. Take advantage of the mute button. 

I’ve recently muted the word “entanglement” on twitter after the whole Red Table Talk with Jada & Will. I can already see an influx of memes and jokes coming to the TL and it got really old to me, 

REALLY fast. To use this feature while you’re on your mobile app, Click on your Settings and Privacy tab from the drop-down menu of your profile picture, go to Content Preferences, Then click muted, click muted words, and then add any words that you would no longer like to see on your timeline. It’s as easy as that!

3.“Schedule” Social Media Time. 

It is wayyy too easy to spend an abnormal amount of time aimlessly scrolling on social media, procrastinating and wasting time, instead of doing something productive to set yourself up for success in the near future. I’ve recently set up a few “rules” for myself when it comes to the time I spend on social media. For one, I stopped getting on social media first thing in the morning. I only allow myself to open social media after my bed is made and I’ve had breakfast for the day. And I only allow myself 30 mins to catch up on previous events, and then I close the apps and get productive. I’ve also applied the same rule when it comes to being on social media right 

before bed. Thirty minutes before I go to bed, I make sure I’m not on social media. It took a little while to get used to it and to not break the habit but it has definitely improved my productivity and sleep.

 4.Understand how people use social media.

It is important to understand that most people only post the positive highlights of their life on social media, like pictures from their vacations, promotions, accomplishments, and things of that sort. That just makes it 10x easier to log on on a bad day, and unintentionally compare your life to someone else just by looking at all of their seemingly perfect posts. But remember, that no one really 

 But remember, that no one really tends to post their downfalls for the whole world to see. So when you log onto Instagram and go to someone’s profile it might seem like their life is close to perfect, but just remember that they’re not sharing the good AND the bad. They’re just sharing the good. 

 5. Be selective with who respond to and give your energy to. 

We all know about “trolls” and “bots” on twitter. We know about the people who seem to follow you just to hate and criticize every post you ever make. Instead of spending your precious time giving them the reaction that they are damn near begging for, consider not engaging with them. Too many times I’ve found myself going back & forth with someone who wanted to debate *my* opinion, only to realize how much energy and time I wasted trying to defend myself. I feel silly afterwards because there were a number of productive things I could have been doing with my time instead of replying. Now when that happens I just simply ignore them, or mute and block them. It’s worked wonders for my mental health and productivity so far.

6. Take breaks when necessary.

Now, this doesn’t have to be a weekly occurrence, but you should take a break when you feel depleted or like you’ve wasted a lot of time mindlessly scrolling and not getting your necessary work done. If you find yourself CONSTANTLY getting overwhelmed or depleted then..Sis! Just delete the damn app, and redownload it when you feel rejuvenated.

7. Turn Off Your Notifications.

Once upon a time, I had my post notifications on for celebrities I loved during my “stan” phase. I had them on for Drake, Chance the Rapper, Rihanna, and more. Mind you, during this time I was still in high school so my responsibilities were close to nothing. But, now? As an ADULT??? Baby, I could never. I’d probably dump my phone in the nearest garbage can because those notifications would drive me up the wall! Even the notifications from when one of my tweets goes semi-viral, I AUTOMATICALLY mute the tweet. They are just huge distractions in my opinion. I also turn off my push notifications for the apps I use so I feel less inclined to open the app. Turning 

off my notifications for social media was a huge game-changer for me, along with deleting the app all together. That was perfect for when it was time to study for a big test.

 8.Use Social Media With More Intention.

Use social media to connect with others and not to compare your life or situation to anyone else. I’ve realized that when u get older, it finally sets in just how precious time is and that you always want to use it to your advantage and use it wisely. Use social media as a tool to learn, network, grow, and to seek inspiration.

 9.Be yourself online.

I can’t stress this enough, but always strive to be your authentic self. People notice when you’re not being yourself and seem to respect the former. When you are authentically yourself on social media you attract the right crowd and form more genuine connections with others. It’s 10x easier to just be yourself instead of having to keep up with an alternative version of yourself. At some point, it just starts to feel like noise. But posting intentionally and not just to stay “relevant” has eased my mind tremendously.

 10. Only post when you have something to share.

 I know social media can make us feel like we constantly need to post something to make us feel relevant, but that’s just simply not true. I used to tweet just to stay on people’s timeline so they wouldn’t forget about me and unfollow me. If they are anything like us, looking to use social media in a healthier way, I would think that they would want quality instead of quantity on their timeline, amirite? So now if I don’t have anything productive to say, ill just not tweet and retweet things that I relate to. More people should learn how to do this, huh?

Final Thoughts

I hope these tips help you learn how to have a healthier relationship with social media! With it being something that the majority of us constantly use, we should strive to have a healthier relationship with it. If you implemented any of these tips and they worked for you, be sure to share your experience down in the comments below! I love hearing from you all! (: